In my previous blog post on relationship anxiety, I gave risk factors or causes that contribute to stress in relationships. Whether they’re big or small, numerous elements can taint and break the connection between you and your partner. However, there are still many ways to lessen the anxiety in your relationship. As I have promised before, I will expound on solutions to relationship anxiety.
How To Stop Relationship Anxiety
Relationships can be complicated at times. Before you make your decision on how to deal with your complicated relationship, ask yourself the following:
- Is the relationship worth fighting for?
- Can you change yourself for the sake of the relationship?
The first question is probably the most common question people in a bad relationship ask themselves. Looking for the answer to this question can be very difficult, with the quality of your relationship right now, but you need to be honest and sincere. Because according to a licensed clinical expert, Noah Clyman “the biggest misconception about anxiety is that it’s to be feared and avoided at all costs.”
The second question is a tough one. You need to accept the fact that you have no control over other people, especially your significant other. You cannot change them for your sake or the relationship’s. The only person you can change is you. So ask yourself: What do I need to do? How can I make things better for myself?
Ways To Control Relationship Anxiety
The only way to save your relationship is to control your anxiety and aim for overall healing. Below are some tips on how to successfully get over relationship anxiety.
Exercise And Other Anxiety Reduction Strategies
Physical activities like working out, jogging, cycling and so many more can help eliminate anxiety. It will divert your mind away from the conflict and even boost your mood since exercise is known to activate a person’s happy hormones.
Sometimes, you just have to start everything from the beginning. Work your way up until the trust and confidence are back. Like what Kathleen Smith, PhD, LPC said in her article, “going silent can calm you down temporarily, but it is likely to increase your partner’s anxiety or anger.” Be excited about what’s ahead for both of you and don’t let the past affect your relationship now.
Be aware of your partner’s needs. List them down and do your best to provide them for your loved one. Expect nothing from him to avoid frustrations but be thankful for whatever he can provide for you.
Staying Mentally Busy
Sometimes, the mind plays tricks on people. This is especially true during idle moments. The typical effect of such is that you become more critical, hard to please, and more prone to finding faults in your partner. Negative thinking can lead to big misunderstandings. To avoid this, keep your mind busy. Read, watch TV, write, and do what interests you. Doing so will keep you out of trouble.
Be Physically Affectionate
Physical contact like hugging is an act that can comfort and soothe your partner. It is a way of telling the other that no matter how bad things go, you are still with them, which can lighten the situation. “Long-lasting healthy relationships are centered on equality, appreciation and love,” psychologist Kelsey M. Latimer, Ph.D., CEDS-S, founder of Hello Goodlife said.
Anxiety in a relationship may be a regular thing, but it shouldn’t be tolerated. Instill in your mind that the problem in the relationship is the anxiety and not the person you love. So instead of blaming everything on yourself or your partner, find the cause and face it head-on.